I've had all sorts of hi-steer setups on mine in the past and have reverted back to just putting the steering on top of the stock knuckles using taper delete bushings on both axles. The stock knuckles are strong as hell in stock form, only the guys with tractor tires, 7000+ lbs, and 1000 hp are ripping the stock arms off and it saves weight and complexity to use the stock arms. Same goes for the stud girdle. I've known one or two to screw up gears without them, but a lot can go into that other than just abuse. I think a lot of people run loose pinion bearings and don't even realize it. And when gears do go its most often the pinion gear. Even with loose pinion bearings it takes a hell of a lot of abuse, IMO.
In my experience shafts are the main things that break, and only rarely. Randy's 16-spline chromo replacements are the best bang for the buck. The Violators are nice, I have them in the rear, but they just move the weak link.