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I've thought about doing that, and will when given the chance in small impact scenarios, but can't afford to most of the time. Haha
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I've thought about doing that, and will when given the chance in small impact scenarios, but can't afford to most of the time. Haha
Man that sucks JD. Hope it gets better for you guys. Coming from someone that's 38 and been divorced twice, try to work it out for sure , but in the meantime don't get any debt together, or anything in both names... it makes it a lot easier IF the day comes. Oh and DEF don't have a Fukin kid if you're not sure about how it's gonna play out. I've done that twice also. I'd give anything to raise a family with my kids around all the time. But drugs ruined my first marriage 18 years ago and a seriously insane woman ruined the second one. Insane as in committed to a mental institution. That bitch belittled me , whipped my ass, and made me miserable for 2 years.. we were like y'all, didn't argue over the normal ****, she wanted to nag and constantly run that mouth about the dumbest things ALL the time. It almost drove me crazy. I tried to stay and work it out, but my ass ain't putting up with that **** my whole life. Negative. Anyways, it's late, I'm rambling. Hope you do what's best for you man. That's what ya gotta think about.
TacomaJD
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Hear ya loud and clear buddy. I don't want to jinx it but she has been a different woman since Sunday night. Hopefully she keeps it up. If it stayed like this, we wouldn't have the first problem, ever.
The check engine light also went off in my car Sunday and has been off ever since....so one of those things are bound to **** up before too long haha.
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Hear ya loud and clear buddy. I don't want to jinx it but she has been a different woman since Sunday night. Hopefully she keeps it up. If it stayed like this, we wouldn't have the first problem, ever.
The check engine light also went off in my car Sunday and has been off ever since....so one of those things are bound to **** up before too long haha.
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Man, I sure do hate to hear this Casey, but it sounds and looks like you have gotten the wheels back on the cart and heading in the right direction. I too don't want to see Josh in misery, but I do believe they can work through this adjustment period and will. The first thing to address in any problem is THE PROBLEM. No sugarcoating it, just lay the facts out there on the table and sort through what is really important and what it not. Will you both wake up tomorrow or not, will determine how important the problem is from the start and then finding a mutual ground to agree on. I know it probably sounds like an AA meeting, but without laying your cards out for each to see, you'll never get to what really is the problem. Josh, Casey, you both sound like you have been through HELL and back and are learning from your mistakes. Stay strong and commit to making it work out and in the end, it will be all worth it.
Don't take the easy line, take the hard line :****:
It's hard, but if you commit to each other and take the option of divorce off the table, it will improve. Don't keep the thought in your mind, it is poison. You will always fight, fact of life. My wife and I have gone through peaks and valleys, I cannot even count the number of times she or I have said, "let's get a divorce". Hundreds of times, I talked to a lawyer once and started looking at how to split the funds. It has not happened yet, and unless someone cheats on the other, it will not. Last year was the worst of our life. Terrible family situation that we did not create, but it had a huge impact on us. We were hanging on by a thread, but we made it somehow. Since then we took divorce off the table, it is no longer a threat or a thought. It makes a big difference. Best of luck to you.
It's hard, but if you commit to each other and take the option of divorce off the table, it will improve. Don't keep the thought in your mind, it is poison. You will always fight, fact of life. My wife and I have gone through peaks and valleys, I cannot even count the number of times she or I have said, "let's get a divorce". Hundreds of times, I talked to a lawyer once and started looking at how to split the funds. It has not happened yet, and unless someone cheats on the other, it will not. Last year was the worst of our life. Terrible family situation that we did not create, but it had a huge impact on us. We were hanging on by a thread, but we made it somehow. Since then we took divorce off the table, it is no longer a threat or a thought. It makes a big difference. Best of luck to you.
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I appreciate the input MattO! Things been perfect since Sunday night and we've talked a lot since then about how stupid and petty some of our arguments have been, so maybe she is becoming a little more self aware now. Always take the Hardline!
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I appreciate the input MattO! Things been perfect since Sunday night and we've talked a lot since then about how stupid and petty some of our arguments have been, so maybe she is becoming a little more self aware now. Always take the Hardline!
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Good deal, make sure you are HEARING what she is saying and not just listening. :indianajones:
This just goes to show you that everyone has there battles in marriage, all this time I see MattO as having the ultimate marriage. You seem to have it all, beautiful wife, happy kids, great career, family life, mortgage, etc, but still have the battles that we all face. IF nothing else comes from this thread, maybe we will all see that we are more alike than we think we are, no matter how much money we make, how big of a house, or what kind of car and toys we possess. You have to work for everything you want, it's just a matter of how hard you want to work for it.
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Good deal, make sure you are HEARING what she is saying and not just listening. :indianajones:
This just goes to show you that everyone has there battles in marriage, all this time I see MattO as having the ultimate marriage. You seem to have it all, beautiful wife, happy kids, great career, family life, mortgage, etc, but still have the battles that we all face. IF nothing else comes from this thread, maybe we will all see that we are more alike than we think we are, no matter how much money we make, how big of a house, or what kind of car and toys we possess. You have to work for everything you want, it's just a matter of how hard you want to work for it.
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14 months married. There's obviously exceptions (cheating, drugs, etc) but if you're looking for a divorce now you're just looking for an excuse to get out. Period end of story. I'm not going to lecture you on the until death do us part bit. If you want out get out do blow crush ass whatever, I'm not gonna judge, but admit to yourself that is what it is. If not, go back to the drawing board and work on it.
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I guess I have to echo what Matt said, If you even think for a second that divorce is an option, it is cancer. It spreads fast. It's a small thought at first and before you know it your brain has made it seem reasonable. We've talked about it a few times. It's hard. It sucks to be unhappy when you can look right out the window and see happy, and she's not there (out the window might be a blank field with NO woman in it, just escaping your current prison of unhappiness. Escaping the madness.) It's hard but worth it for most that stick it out. Have to have hard times to have good times generally
TacomaJD
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This is why I addressed the wise men of Easyline with this. Great discussion, and I feel I may have gained a little more patience for things out of it as well. Like Gregg said, it's interesting to see how others are or have gone through it behind closed doors. I do appreciate the Easyline therapy for sure!
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This is why I addressed the wise men of Easyline with this. Great discussion, and I feel I may have gained a little more patience for things out of it as well. Like Gregg said, it's interesting to see how others are or have gone through it behind closed doors. I do appreciate the Easyline therapy for sure!
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Sounds like things are looking up, that's great man
I think patience is key, I lose my patience with a lot of things but my wife isn't one of them. I can honestly say that my wife and I have fought maybe 3-5 times in the 9.5 years that we have been married.
pay attention to what starts the arguments, tell her right then that it upsets you and ask her to do the same. That was our approach the first year of marriage, both of us paid attention and we knew which buttons not to push. Best years of my life have been married. Hang in there and listen to each other, it will work out .
I think patience is key, I lose my patience with a lot of things but my wife isn't one of them. I can honestly say that my wife and I have fought maybe 3-5 times in the 9.5 years that we have been married.
pay attention to what starts the arguments, tell her right then that it upsets you and ask her to do the same. That was our approach the first year of marriage, both of us paid attention and we knew which buttons not to push. Best years of my life have been married. Hang in there and listen to each other, it will work out .
TacomaJD
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Idk man, I think she tried to kill me today. I just had gotten out of the shower, sitting there in my power chair, she was about to get in shower and walked by me to get a wash cloth, I just so happened to be cleaning the ear on that side with a q tip, she bumped into my arm and I'm pretty sure the q tip touched my brain....
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Idk man, I think she tried to kill me today. I just had gotten out of the shower, sitting there in my power chair, she was about to get in shower and walked by me to get a wash cloth, I just so happened to be cleaning the ear on that side with a q tip, she bumped into my arm and I'm pretty sure the q tip touched my brain....
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Here is a test when you think y'all are good. Buy any furniture from ikea and see if both of y'all can assemble it. Let us know how things are after that.
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We usually assemble whatever we each buy. If its something she wants she puts it together, me and I put it together. We dont argue over big **** like that at all.
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We usually assemble whatever we each buy. If its something she wants she puts it together, me and I put it together. We dont argue over big **** like that at all.
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bbone said:
Which one gets to eat the horse?
I personally like the IKEA food. So i guess I've eaten horse...
So, how's things rolling along nowadays? Getting better I hope Josh.
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TacomaJD
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Was better than it had been in a long time til Saturday morning. I operated the entire week Monday-Friday on 4-5 hrs of sleep each night, wide open all damn day. Go to bed at 2am, get up at 630 to carry weston to school. Saturday was his first jamboree football game this year (9 yr olds). I planned to go to it, even though it was way earlier than his normal games usually are (830am wtf!) Woke up Saturday morning 6th day on less than 5 hrs of sleep, had bad headache from sleep deprivation, felt like I got ran over by a truck (no beer involved) so I text her that morning, as they were already there for weigh ins, and said I needed sleep bc I am flat out drained and feel like ass....well way to go one legged asshole piece of **** step dad, that was the end of the world bc I didnt go to that, which wasnt even a real game, basically a scrimage type game. She was "hurt" even though my mom actually went with her too. My parents play a big part in westons life too. Instead of thinking, yeah Josh has ran himself to death all ****ing week for us, he needs sleep, none of the other **** matters, just that I missed 1 little bullshit game of the 500 more he will play by the time he graduates. I never have went to all his games, usually go to 4 or 5 out of the season, most the time when I dont go, its because Im mowing her yards, our yard, working on her renter house, or every blue moon because I have decided to take a day for myself and go on a bike trip somewhere.
I played basketball and baseball when I was a kid, my dad never came to all my games, but came to enough of them. Mom was always there so I really didn't care either way. I never thought anything bad of my dad for not coming when he had to work or whatever.
But yeah, its been a clusterfuck ever since Saturday morning 100% because I didn't go. Bullshit.
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Was better than it had been in a long time til Saturday morning. I operated the entire week Monday-Friday on 4-5 hrs of sleep each night, wide open all damn day. Go to bed at 2am, get up at 630 to carry weston to school. Saturday was his first jamboree football game this year (9 yr olds). I planned to go to it, even though it was way earlier than his normal games usually are (830am wtf!) Woke up Saturday morning 6th day on less than 5 hrs of sleep, had bad headache from sleep deprivation, felt like I got ran over by a truck (no beer involved) so I text her that morning, as they were already there for weigh ins, and said I needed sleep bc I am flat out drained and feel like ass....well way to go one legged asshole piece of **** step dad, that was the end of the world bc I didnt go to that, which wasnt even a real game, basically a scrimage type game. She was "hurt" even though my mom actually went with her too. My parents play a big part in westons life too. Instead of thinking, yeah Josh has ran himself to death all ****ing week for us, he needs sleep, none of the other **** matters, just that I missed 1 little bullshit game of the 500 more he will play by the time he graduates. I never have went to all his games, usually go to 4 or 5 out of the season, most the time when I dont go, its because Im mowing her yards, our yard, working on her renter house, or every blue moon because I have decided to take a day for myself and go on a bike trip somewhere.
I played basketball and baseball when I was a kid, my dad never came to all my games, but came to enough of them. Mom was always there so I really didn't care either way. I never thought anything bad of my dad for not coming when he had to work or whatever.
But yeah, its been a clusterfuck ever since Saturday morning 100% because I didn't go. Bullshit.
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bbone
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Be the bigger man, explain to her NOT to act like this. It takes things back. It gets old. Remind her to do things that are positive for y'all not negative.
TacomaJD
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bbone said:
Tried, first thing I done Saturday morning after sleeping in was get up and go mow her bigass yard. Weston wanted to go with me and bring his airsoft gun to shoot at birds over there so before we left, she was watering ferns and I went over to hug her from behind and tell her I love her, she didn't say anything and moved away from me so I said **** it then and left. Such a moody ****ing bitch. Jeezus tits, I ain't got time for kid games. If you got a problem, lets talk about it. **** a bunch of passive aggressive bullshit.
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There's two sides to every story and I'm sure she has all sorts of "reasons" why she's acting that way but it almost sounds to me like she may have some sort of depression/chemical imbalance/hormonal issue/bipolar disorder/etc etc. The kind of thing that may need to be evaluated and/or treated by a Dr.
That being said, it sounds like you are bending over backwards for her and your efforts go unnoticed. My advice is to go on a week long drug and alcohol fueled bender (minimum 7 days). She will immediately see how difficult life can be without all your help since you will be absolutely worthless during this time and she will beg for her old man back. This is what is known as a win win.
That being said, it sounds like you are bending over backwards for her and your efforts go unnoticed. My advice is to go on a week long drug and alcohol fueled bender (minimum 7 days). She will immediately see how difficult life can be without all your help since you will be absolutely worthless during this time and she will beg for her old man back. This is what is known as a win win.
